San Diego

My friend, Ashley, invited me to go to San Diego with her this past weekend while she attended a conference.  Ashley noticed there was a half-marathon on Sunday, so she thought I might enjoy relaxing for a few days while she attended her conference and then running the race with her on Sunday.  (A huge THANK YOU to Ashley for letting me tag along!) Here are a few highlights:

• During our travel, Ashley and I both saw things we would like to "unsee."  The Denver airport offered Ashley a viewing of an older lady in her skivvies (there was a large hole in the wall of the stall!), while at the Dallas airport, I caught a glimpse of an aircraft engulfed in flames.  That is not something you want to see when you are getting ready to hop on an airplane.  I read later that it was just a training exercise, but the damage had been done.  (This picture is from the article I read - I was much farther away.)

•  This is Ashley and I in the "Gaslamp District."  The last time I was in San Diego I got all turned around here, so I wanted to conquer it.  It turns out, I got all turned around this time, too.  Maybe next time?

• We took a whale tour on Friday morning.  I packed some Bonine for us to help with the motion sickness, but it turns out 1,000 packages wouldn't have done the trick.  There was a high surf advisory...which brought with it some big swells.  So while most people were able to jump up and run to the right side of the boat to see the three gray whales "snorkeling" along the surface, Ashley and I sat very, very still on our bench, staring out at the horizon.  "Chins up."  When at last the captain repositioned us to have the whales on the left side of the boat, two women ran over and stood right in front of us.  I saw one spray of a whale and a little bit of the actual whale as it surfaced another time.  I'm not sure what Ashley saw - she was more concerned that the ladies blocked her view of the horizon.   Here we are with our barf bags.

• After we recovered from the whale tour, we went to pick up our race stuff at the expo.  We signed the giant SD with chalk.  Kinda seemed like a photo op.

• On Sunday, we raced.  Here is our pre-race selfie. (Clearly I need to practice taking selfies.  The double chin gives away my novice status.)

•  The post-run picture with our ginormous medals.

•  Here are my stats.  It was a PR for me, which I am thankful for but also unsure how I accomplished this.  Without Sarita running with me, I had a really hard time finding my pace.  Plus, the race was very crowded so I never really got into my "grove."  No matter what the time, my eighth half-marathon is on the books!

Jiving in 2014

Culture shock. That’s what the last eight weeks have been. Today marks the end of my first eight weeks with Jive Software and it’s been a wild ride. A fantastic, wild ride. While the transition into my role as sales director in the Midwest isn’t complete, our FY2014 follows the calendar year so it’s officially game on. I’m on my way home from our 2014 SKO in the Valley with the rest of the team and have never been more excited about work. While our SKO (sales kick off) is an unbelievable and top-shelf experience (awards of cash, watches, trips, Porches, the Dan Band, etc.), it’s the passion of our execs and product teams that one couldn’t help to be excited about. To represent a product with such market-relevance, and one that is coming into stride throughout the world, is an experience all to its own.

No matter the size of your business, it’s worth your time to check us out. www.jive.com. 

PS. A massive shout-out to my wife and sons. I'm gone a lot. Often many time zones away. It's super hard on all of them and they never complain. Each is such an amazing gift I don't deserve. 

2013 Recap

2014 is here? Say what?

Some highlights from 2013. 

• We sold our house, twice, in one month. 

Residence of nearly 10 years - we have awesome memories there and loved this house.

• Carey started her second year of teaching the boys - she's my hero.

  

  Carey's classroom

   
• Cooper lost his front teeth!

  

  Cooper!

• Lauren got married! 

  

  Hanna, Wade, Lauren, and Nate

• Attended 2013 'Cross World Championships

  

  Dale, Ira, and John

• Carey and I got some r&r in Cayman 

  

  Sun, sand, and Diet Coke!

  
  

  

  Headed to the barrier reef

• Construction on our new house was completed. 

  

  View from the driveway

  

  Kitchen

  

  Miles, back steps / deck

• Carey added a new half-marathon race venue to the list!

  

  Sarita, Carey - Go Girl Race

• I took a new job with Jive Software. 

  

  A look at my new office!
• Carey and the boys completed their first race - Miles took Carey at the line

  

  SBU Cross Country Fundraising Run

• Christmas - I know. It comes every year. But, it's my favorite holiday / season, so it still gets a place on the list. 

  

  I've always decorated my office at work. With a job change late in the year, my makeshift basement office had to do. 

  

  Our 'Charlie Brown' Christmas Tree - A Blue Atlas Cedar we're planting any day now! 

• Cooper has become a sports maniac - he can't get enough of watching and playing, especially football 

  

  Springfield Cardinals game

• Birthdays - Nate (32), Miles (5), Cooper (7), Carey (26)

  

  Recent family pic

• The boys asked if we could play more golf. Yes please. 

  

  Cooper, Miles

• We enjoyed many fires in the new house. Not the kind where you call the fire dept. Which is a welcome relief this year. 

  

  Living room fireplace

• Family vacation in FL at Delray Beach - millions of common jellyfish also decided to vacation here. 

  

  Sand was great, water was around 86 degrees

  
  

  

  An evening out in Delray

  

  Local exhibits of sea life and sharks!

• I was able to join the guys in many pre-season 'cross and road rides

  

  Dale, John, and Ira
• Donuts from St. George's. Trust me, it's an event. 

  

  Cooper

  
  

  

  Miles

• Miles has become our resident chess expert (and loves every kind of board game)

  

  His 'You didn't see that coming, did you?' look

2014 - Game On. 

December 23

December 23rd is a big day for me.  This year marks the five year anniversary of the day I received a life-changing call from Dr. Harris.  I knew what the news could be, but somehow that didn't prepare me for what the news was.  "The results of your MRI were consistent with that of someone who has Multiple Sclerosis."  I didn't get the official diagnosis until January, but the writing was on the wall on that day in December.

I am so thankful for the way God has protected me over the past five years!  While my attitude has changed, the progress of the disease has been minimal.  Tomorrow may come with new challenges, but I will yet praise Him.

Our Encounter Band leads us in many fantastic songs.  I have learned to worship in a deeper way through their leadership.  One of the songs they use to help us worship is a Hillsong song called You Hold Me Now.  The lyrics of that song became so overwhelmingly real to me one recent Sunday as I realized how sweet heaven will be for me after facing physical ailments while on earth.  While they have so far paled in comparison to what many people face, I have the gift of longing for the day I will be in the new Jerusalem with God and with no crying or pain.  I would not be able to understand the goodness of this gift without a little pain on earth.  In that moment I became so very thankful that I would be able to experience heaven in a more full way due to my lack.

I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelation 21:2-4 NIV)

What's Trending?

Carey and I have become big fans of Late Night with Jimmy Fallon. I'v always enjoyed the show, but if any of you know us well, we don't see that time of night very often. Therefore, we never watched! With the new house, we decided to finally venture into the realm of a DVR and now record Fallon and watch various shows throughout the weekend. It's been a ton of fun. If you don't watch the show, he does a great job of mixing up the content but also has some regular stuff as well (i.e. Thank you notes, etc.). Of those, we find the 'what's trending' to be really funny. Before this, I never have kept up with trending topics in the news or sports, but it is interesting to see what people (globally) are searching for, commenting on, and the like.

I hadn't really thought of how this applies to my life until recently. A year ago this month, Michael and I discussed growing out our hair. I'm not sure what brought this on, but I decided to go with it ever since. I think Michael lasted about two months before he bailed. Anyway, in twelve months, I've gone from a pretty short cut to quite long. The lady who last cut my hair said 'what's the plan here - are you going for a ponytail?' And, while it's not quite long enough yet, I could get a lot of it in one if I tried. And let's be clear, I'm not trying. But, with the long hair has come a lot of interesting things I never thought about:

1. I can't wear hats anymore. This much hair doesn't fit in a hat.
2. My ears, which stick out slightly more than normal, are well hidden!
3. I can go longer than three weeks between haircuts - this is big in my world.
4. What money I've saved in haircuts I now spend in trying to make it look somewhat 'professional'. The 'professional' part is still under debate with some friends.
5. I instantly make friends with strangers in the city as they think I'm a Euro (like them).

This all brings me back to the original topic. If there is anything that's been somewhat shocking, and noticeable to almost anyone who travels with me, it's that my hair seems to be 'trending'. Besides the items above, people are constantly commenting on my hair, talking to me in Italian (only to be disappointed I don't speak much in return) and so on. It's made every day an adventure when I'm out. No kidding, everyday in the city, someone somewhere will make a comment about the hair. Included in those comments are people who think I remind them of a particular famous person, TV personalities, and one of the more common themes, random NHL players.

About a two months ago, one of the TSA guys in Springfield caught me going through the line and asked how the spine business was. I looked at him funny, he looked back at me funny and then says - 'oh, sorry, I thought you were the doctor who worked on my spine a few years back.' We chatted a bit about his recovery, shook hands and since then he always shouts out a 'hey Doc' every time he sees me come through. With the frequent travel we talk often, and now the other regulars in TSA have started calling me 'Doc' whenever I'm there.

So, for any of you who may see me at the airport, no, I'm not taking new patients.

What if it's true?

When Nate and I were traveling home from our recent vacation, a man pulled up beside Nate in an Arby's parking lot in Tulsa, OK, and asked him for some gas money.  A family member had been sick, his alternator went kaput, he couldn't make it back home.  I watched my husband talk to this man, look him in the eye, and give him the money he needed.

That's probably not what I would have done.

I'm really good at judging.  I don't even have to work at it - it comes naturally.  "I'm sure he's lying." "He probably just needs to buy more drugs and/or alcohol." "If he would work, like the rest of us, he would wouldn't have to ask for money." 

But as I watched my husband share with this stranger, I was overwhelmed with the passage in Matthew - the one about the sheep and the goats - and I thought to myself: what if God's word is true? 

What if it isn't my job to determine whether or not this man deserves money?  What if I'm not responsible for the use of the money after it changes hands from mine to the stranger's?  What if all I'm supposed to do is meet needs?  

My husband inspired me.  I am convinced God's word is true, and yet I do not live like I believe what it says.  I'm not just talking about more doing, I'm talking about a complete change in the way I look at people.  I am so thankful that God is able to change my heart so that I can believe His word and love people well.

The Sheep and the Goats

³¹ “When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his glorious throne. ³² All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. ³³ He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.
³⁴ “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. ³⁵ For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, ³⁶ I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’
³⁷ “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? ³⁸ When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? ³⁹ When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’
⁴⁰ “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’
⁴¹ “Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. ⁴² For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, ⁴³ I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.’
⁴⁴ “They also will answer, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?’
⁴⁵ “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’
⁴⁶ “Then they will go away to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life.”

Bangs!

I got my hair cut today, and I had Jami give me bangs.  I have a history with bangs, and it's not good. So when I make a daring decision like this, I feel deep fear. Let's take a walk together down memory lane so you'll see what I mean...

 This is the thick, straight bangs that went about half way back my head.  Those are some BANGS.  I think we daughters of the 80's bear this burden of our past together.

Here are a few school pictures.  These capture the bangs + perm era.  I rocked this look for several years.  I'm sure some readers (okay - just one reader) will see these pictures as a representation of a battle.  School pictures + little girls' hair = tears. (I'm sorry, Mom.)

And how about this gem?  The mini-side ponytail with brushed out perm bangs.  Wow.  I'm not sure what else to say.  As a word of encouragement to my girl friends with little girls: if my mom could bite her tongue when I did my hair like this, you can get through anything.  Good luck.

 

 

And then there's this.  This is 8th grade, people.  I spent hours making my hair look like that and probably burned my forehead with the curling iron several times.  Those were desperate days.

 

 

FORE!!

Before kids, I joined a club and played golf off and on every week. During the warm weather seasons between travel, Michael Robinson and I would run out over lunch to play a few holes, occasionally take a conference call from the cart, etc. It was really fun. Even after Cooper was born, this continued for a little while. The frequency was much less, but we still got out on occasion.

Since having the boys, the idea of enjoying the afternoon on a course was a distant thought. With any time to spare, I was multi-tasking by getting exercise with my newly reborn love of biking. So, golf has been in the backseat for quite a while. However, all of that has changed. 

Cooper, and occasionally Miles, has been begging me to take him golfing lately. In a recent run he did at SBU, he won a gift certificate for two at the local public course and the date was set. We borrowed some kids clubs and hit the course. It was some of the most fun I feel like we've had together. Between getting a Coke for the round, driving the cart, and hitting the ball, he was hooked from hole one. 

Since then, the boys and I have been several times and the hours pass so quickly. Cooper is striking the ball quite well and loves the golf part more than anything else. He does a good job to make sure I'm not using 'the nice balls' around water, calls out my scores after each hole (he likes to pronounce 'bogey' 'boogey' just to mess with Miles), and provides tons of encouragement and 'advice' along the way. He has even took to reading the course guide, calling out yardage, telling me the hazards and the like. He is already quite the student! Miles is still very content to sip soda and make imaginary people out of the tees and balls and Cooper and I often return to the cart after hitting to find some kind of battle going on. I feel completely spoiled to be able to spend time with them like this. The idea that they're old enough to begin enjoying activities I also enjoy is a wild thought! 

They are growing up so fast. 

Summer is over!

It's been pretty hot here in MO the last several weeks but the temps are supposed to cool down a bit towards the end of this week. The change in temps will be perfect as the kickoff for 'cross racing is this weekend in Hermann and it will be great to have some cooler weather. Training has been tough in the heat. 

As the temps change, it reminds me that Fall is coming and I'm pumped for it! Carey and I were talking yesterday and it's crazy that summer is over, school is in full swing, Walmart is selling Halloween candy, etc. I love this time of year as you can bundle up a bit more, be outside without sweating through clothes, have bonfires, put in mums and the like. With install of the fireplace and the abundance of wood, we're also looking forward to have a crackling fire in the house on a regular basis. For me, it's tough to beat a fire inside. 

We continue to adjust to the new house and are enjoying it more every day. The grass has been in for about 1.5 weeks and we have tons of green all over. But, because we have to keep it so wet for the roots to establish, the ground is super muddy and we've not been about to get outside on the yard and play. It will be nice to have the seed established enough to be able to walk on it and not have mud everywhere. Especially on the dog. I think Fiona is getting pretty tired of being stuck in the house (and so are we as the cleaning up of her footprints and hair have been ridiculous). Here is the latest pic of the front of the house and the hearth that was installed this morning - the colors on the hearth and tile look a little funky in the picture but we're excited about how it turned out. 

We still have a few things left to do on the back deck, but are so close to being finished with the construction of the house. The concrete drive is being finished today, our concrete hearth was installed today, a few touch-ups on the stucco remain, and a bit more dirt-work around the driveway is all that's left. I won't miss the building process that's been going on over the last 8 months, but it has been fun. We're all looking forward to the finished product. Because we sold some of our furniture with the old house, we've still got a few things to buy before the inside is done. Once it is, I'll post a few pics. 

Miscellaneous

Lots going on for the fam this summer. As Carey noted, we've sold our house twice, spent quite a bit of time making decisions on the new house (and have entered packing H. E. Double Hockey Stick...) the boys have had baseball twice a week, and we've traveled a fair bit to visit family. But, it's been fun and we can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

While school is officially out for the summer, Carey and the boys have spent a lot of time on reading and completing various projects over the summer. It's been so fun to see the boys learn and become great readers. Cooper is plowing through big books and his vocabulary is amazing. That kid is going to be dangerous. In addition to an incentive plan Carey created for the boys to keep them reading, we also joined the Springfield reading program that has some pretty sweet 'prizes' if kids read a certain number of books, etc. A few weeks ago both boys hit the primary milestone in the program and received their 'prize sheet' from the library. I was seriously impressed when I saw the list of things local businesses have offered as a part of the punch list of rewards. Free cupcakes, ice cream, discounts on Incredible Pizza, Discovery Center, and so on. It was an impressive list. So, to celebrate, we spent a Saturday cashing in on as many as we could! Chik-fil-a for a free lunch, tickets to Springfield Discovery Center, Andy's for free concretes, played at the Jordan Valley Park (always free) and then to the Cardinals game - you guessed it - free! We don't normally spend a Saturday like this so it was a ton of fun. And, with the boys being more interested in baseball, it was great to have them see a 'real' game. As long as we were eating, Miles enjoyed it. Cooper couldn't get enough of the game, statistics, etc. We can't wait to go back. Here is Cooper giving me the 'dad, don't take my picture' look.

All is well on the house front with an eminent move in date - Aug 3. Typing that seems crazy as it's been a little while in the making and it's hard to believe it's almost here! As we come into the home stretch, we've been reminded of how thankful we are for having someone help us build. Our GC has been awesome and is the primary reason this project has been fun. We've heard so many times that building a house has been a near marriage-ending experience and we've done great! The next two weeks will be busy as we pack and watch the finishing touches come to life on the inside and out. This week the trim / cabinets are finished, back deck / stairs are completed, painting is finished, appliances are installed, counters will be cut and finished, basement floor finished, lights installed, and tile work in two of the bathrooms and around the fireplace. And that's just the big stuff. =) 

As we prepare for the move, Carey has also been preparing for the coming school year. We're all looking forward to school beginning and the boys are pumped. Miles has told me several times that he's excited to have his mom as his teacher this year. Because they are so different, I know teaching both Cooper and Miles will be an extra challenge. But, Carey is such a gifted teacher, I know I will get to see our boys flourish in school again this year. As they get older, I continue to be amazed by Cooper and Miles and how they are developing into young men.

Life for me is unchanged. Biking has been an afterthought the last few months as work has been very heavy, but I can see a coming end. I've practically been living in Boston for the last several months. And, while it's a great city to work in, I'm looking forward to some time away. I have over 10 weeks of vacation and I have plans to use some in the very near future! 

A few pics. 

Jackson and Blake came to visit for the week. Meal times were like an assembly line!

Current view of the house. Getting closer.

NY Pizza. One slice, two plates.

Boston 'home'.